First Time Being Dominated? Here's What You Need To Know!

Ready to dip your toes into the wild world of domination for the first time? Trust us, you are not alone. Research shows that nearly one in three men have secret fantasies about being dominated in the bedroom. If you are buzzing with excitement (and maybe just a tiny bit of nerves), you have landed in exactly the right place.

At Bed Domination, we live and breathe this world, and our London mistresses are absolute pros at guiding first timers. So buckle up, keep your mind open, and get ready for a quick crash course on everything you need to know.

Talk About What You Want

First things first, you have got to be clear about what you are into. A lot of newbies think they need to hand over total control without saying a word, but that is not the case. Communication is seriously sexy.

One of our mistresses, Ella, said this: "Tell me your dirty little secrets. The more I know, the more wickedly perfect I can make your first time."

Remember, domination is about building trust first and letting the magic unfold second.

Pick a Safe Word

A safe word is not you chickening out. It is a powerful tool. In fact, a study by Psychology Today found that over 80 percent of people who practice BDSM regularly use safe words and said they feel more secure because of them.

Pick a word that would never accidentally pop up during playtime. "Banana," "Spaceship," or even "Coca Cola", whatever would be easiest for you to remember in a moment of desperation.

Another one of our mistresses, Brooke, said this: "I always tell my newbies, safe words are sexy. They show me you trust me enough to really let go."

It Might Feel a Bit Awkward

No one tells you this, but your first domination session will probably involve a bit of giggling. That is completely normal. From trying on collars to practising positions, not everything will feel smooth straight away.

Our dominatrix, Brooke, said this: "We are going to laugh. We are going to fumble. That just makes the payoff even hotter."

So if you end up giggling in between moans, congratulations, you are doing it right.

You Might Get a Few Marks

Depending on how intense you go, you might walk away with a few light marks or feel muscles you did not even know you had. According to a report from the Journal of Sexual Medicine, a huge 70 percent of participants who enjoy BDSM said they find slight pain to be pleasurable and even relaxing.

Your mistress will always tailor the session to your limits and desires. You are not signing up for anything you cannot handle. Promise.

Aftercare is Important

You will hear a lot about aftercare, and for good reason. It is basically the cuddle and care time after the wild ride. This is when your mistress will check in, offer some soothing touches, and make sure you are floating on a happy, satisfied cloud.

Quick Tips to Remember

• Come with an open mind and a sense of humour

• Bring a clear idea of your hard no's/things you'd prefer to steer clear of

• Stay hydrated (trust us on this one)

• Remember, you are allowed to feel nervous

Now go on. Take a deep breath. Your BDSM adventure is waiting!