Types of Humiliation Play All Subs Should Try

“You pathetic little boy...”, she growled. "You're nothing but my own personal toy. You exist only to be used..."

Taken aback by that opening statement? Hmm... this page definitely isn't for you then. For those who are intrigued (and slightly turned on), read on... 

So… you’re curious about humiliation play. Maybe you like the sting of being talked down to. Maybe you get hard when someone laughs at you instead of reassuring you. Or maybe you already know that being called a good boy isn’t half as effective as being told you’re embarrassing yourself... and doing it anyway.

Written for the Bed Domination crowd (by the very same domination escorts London is known for), this guide breaks down the different types of humiliation play every submissive should understand before asking to be pushed. From light, laughable embarrassment to the kind of degradation that makes someone kneel quieter and beg harder. 

Contents:

• What Humiliation Play Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)
• Verbal Humiliation
• Physical Degradation
• Gender & Sissification Humiliation
• Role-Play & Scenario-Based Humiliation
• Status & Objectification Humiliation
• Service Humiliation

 

What Humiliation Play Is (And What It Isn’t)

Humiliation play isn’t just “being mean.” It isn’t lazy name-calling or forcing someone to watch Mrs Brown's Boys on repeat (as degrading as that might seem). And it definitely isn’t dragging someone’s real-life trauma into the bedroom and hoping it turns sexy.

At its core, humiliation is about status. It's about who’s on top, who’s beneath, who gets to keep their dignity, and who gives it up willingly. A submissive isn’t just following orders here; they’re handing over the right to look composed, confident, or respectable… and letting someone else decide how they’re seen.

That’s why humiliation works when it works. It’s controlled and deliberate... every word is chosen and every moment is earned. The submissive agrees to be brought down, inch by inch, whilst the dominant decides exactly how far that descent goes... and when it stops.

Get it wrong, and, well... things can get pretty messy and even cruel in the wrong way. Get it right, though, and it becomes one of the most intoxicating forms of power exchange there is. Which is why so many people choose to explore it with experienced humiliation escorts. So then... what are the different types of humiliation play that subs like yourself can indulge in? Well, let's take a look - starting with...

 

Verbal Humiliation

Verbal humiliation is where most subs start… mostly because it’s cheap, easy, and doesn’t require buying anything. All that's needed is a mouth and the willingness to say things one would normally keep to oneself.

It often starts with names. Not cute ones. The kind that knocks someone down a peg: slut, bitch, whore, pathetic little thing. Or smaller words that do more damage than they should: boy, baby, sissy. Words that make it very clear how they’re being seen.

For some subs, it’s being spoken to like they’re slow. Like they’re needy. Like they’re embarrassing themselves, and everyone can see it. Being told to ask again. To try harder. To stop sounding so desperate, even though that’s exactly what’s being pulled out of them.

One of the filthiest tricks here is agreement. Making someone say it themselves. Making them admit what they are, or what they want, or why they’re here. Not once. Again. Properly this time. Louder. Until the embarrassment stops feeling awkward and starts feeling... arousing. For more on the ins and outs of this kink, read our detailed overview of humiliation and the psychology behind it. 

 

Physical Degradation

Physical degradation is humiliation that happens through what you’re made to do with your body. That means movement being restricted, posture being dictated, and your body being placed where it’s told... and kept there.

Common physical degradation scenes include being made to approach on all fours, kneel silently until acknowledged, clean or serve without eye contact, eat or drink in ways that feel childish or undignified, or remain restrained or exposed while being ignored. Collars, leashes, bare skin, and enforced stillness all belong here — not because they’re extreme, but because they remove choice.

More intense versions of physical degradation can involve being used rather than addressed. Being positioned as furniture. Being required to wait while others move freely around you. Being left restrained or exposed and told not to move. If you’re new to this type of play, restraints are the way forward. One degrading action, held for longer than feels comfortable, is far more effective than stacking multiple humiliations at once. Being told to kneel and wait (and wait properly, mind you) will unravel someone faster than a dozen shouted commands.

There are also messier or more taboo variations that some people crave, where bodily use, exposure, or loss of privacy becomes part of the humiliation. Now, these aren’t exactly beginner territory and rely heavily on trust, clear limits, and shared expectations. Physical degradation should leave someone feeling exposed and owned... not unsafe or genuinely distressed. Luckily for you, however, our fetish escorts know exactly what they're doing, so why not get in touch with one of them? 

 

Gender & Sissification Humiliation

Gender and sissification humiliation? Isn't that when someone is thrown into a girl's outfit and calls it a day? Not quite. Just think about it... who you are in everyday life versus who you’re reduced to once control is established. That gap (the one between self-image and presentation) is where the embarrassment really starts to itch.

This kink rarely comes out of nowhere. Most submissives drawn to it have already thought about being corrected, feminised, emasculated, renamed, or quietly reminded that they don’t quite live up to the role they like to project. This can mean enforced dress codes, being told how to sit or stand, being corrected on posture or movement, being laughed at for trying too hard to “pass,” or being addressed by a name or title that clashes sharply with who they are outside the room. 

Some dynamics lean further into this kink, requiring grooming standards, shaved legs, jewellery that signals ownership, or presentation rules that feel deliberately inconvenient or embarrassing. Done properly (especially by the likes of our feminisation escorts), gender-based humiliation lingers. It might seem outrageous to some, but what it does is tap into something the submissive has been circling privately for years. That low-level embarrassment (mixed with plenty of arousal, of course) is exactly why this kink tends to become a repeat request rather than a one-time experiment.

 

Role-Play & Scenario-Based Humiliation

Scenario-based humiliation works because it gives shame a context. Instead of random degradation, the submissive is dropped into a situation where embarrassment feels earned and actually makes sense. How so, you ask? 

Well, think about it. Authority figures, evaluations, failed tests, being corrected, judged, or quietly disappointed in... these setups are best at creating built-in power imbalances. The submissive knows the rules, knows what’s expected, and knows they’re already falling short. This might involve being made to repeat tasks until they’re done “properly,” being spoken to like someone who should know better, being required to explain themselves, or being scolded calmly rather than shouted at. Being treated like a child who’s messed up often hits far harder than outright insults.

Homework, journals, required phrases, enforced rituals, or being made to present themselves in a specific way all slot naturally into a role without feeling random. And of course, roleplay also gives room to explore darker ideas safely. Fancy indulging in some niche pet play? A scenario that involves you eating out of a dog bowl or wearing a leash? No problem. When the dominant (perhaps one of our roleplay mistresses) stays in character and lets the situation unfold naturally, the humiliation feels immersive rather than forced. 

 

Status & Objectification Humiliation

Status humiliation is about being reduced from a person to a position or object. You stop being someone who’s addressed, considered, or asked, and instead become something that’s placed, used, or ignored.

This is where names are thrown out of the window, or replaced with something smaller. Perhaps a number, a role, or even a label that makes it clear you’re not here as an equal. Being talked about instead of talked to. Being moved without explanation. Being told where to stand, where to kneel, where to wait... and just left there.

For some subs, this shows up as objectification. Acting as furniture. Being told to hold something. Being made to stay still while someone sits, rests, or leans without acknowledging them. Kissing a chair before and after it’s used. Being positioned as part of the room rather than part of the conversation. Others get it through comparison and replacement. Being reminded that you’re interchangeable. That you’re not special. That another body, another toy, another option would work just as well... and might even be preferable. Turned on the idea? Well then, it seems you're one of the subs looking to be objectified. 

Read our guide to learn more about which type of submissive you might be. 

 

Service Humiliation

Service humiliation is where being useful becomes the humiliation. You’re there to do things properly, quietly, and without expecting praise... nothing more, nothing less. 

This often starts small. Fetching. Holding. Cleaning. Standing by while someone eats. Doing things that would normally earn a thank you... and getting nothing. Or being told it wasn’t fast enough, neat enough, or done with the right attitude.

In many dynamics, service turns into routine. Assigned chores. Specific ways of presenting things. Rules about how to stand, where to wait, and how to offer. Some people push this further into domestic or infantilising territory. Cleaning floors or toilets. Wearing something deliberately embarrassing while doing it. Eating with children’s utensils. Being spoken to slowly, like instructions need to be simple. You may even be required to buy things or pay for something without comment. You’re not doing these things to earn approval. You’re doing them because that’s what you’re for.

 

So… Which Type Is Actually for You?

If you’ve read this far, it's pretty clear that the idea of humiliation intrigues you. Good, because our mistresses love nothing more than lowering you, exposing you, and making you ache for approval while it’s being withheld.

So... what are you waiting for? Go ahead and browse our selection of the best mistresses London has to offer. You'd best hurry, though; our ladies don't like to be kept waiting...