How to Fist (& Be Fisted): Tips From Mistresses
"It won't fit, he said. Maybe just try a couple of fingers, he said. The little bitch never saw it coming."
— Mistress Ava, right before she fist-fucked a submissive client.
So, you want to know about fisting? Maybe you’ve heard the whispers. Maybe you’ve seen the videos. Or maybe your mistress has looked you dead in the eye and said, “Get ready to take it.” Either way — welcome. You’re in the right hole.
This guide covers everything you need to know about fisting — from why people like it to how to prepare, how to do it safely, and how to take (or give) a whole fucking hand like the obedient little slut you are. Whether you’re curious about anal fisting or just trying to figure out how to get past the knuckles without panicking, we’ve got you covered.
Written with love (and lube), straight from the minds of our fisting escorts in London.
Contents:
- What Is Fisting?
- Why Do People Like Fisting?
- Is Fisting Safe?
- How to Prepare for Anal Fisting
- Fisting Techniques (for Subs & Tops)
- Does Fisting Hurt? What Does Fisting Feel Like?
- Aftercare for Fisting
- Ready to Get Fisted?
What Is Fisting?
What is fisting? Really? You want to be filled to the wrist (or elbow), and you don’t even know what you’re asking for?
Fisting is the act of inserting an entire hand — yes, fingers, thumb, knuckles, palm, and beyond — into someone's hole. There are two main types... vaginal fisting and anal fisting:
- What is vaginal fisting? Well, the clue's in the name. It's a fist... inserted into a vagina. It's often more forgiving anatomically, but still requires serious warmup and care.
- What is anal fisting? Seriously? Anal = ass. A fist... inserted into the ass. Simple. This is the more taboo route. Tight, raw, and deeply psychological.
The entire act can be slow and intimate or brutal and intense, but it’s always extreme. When a couple of fingers isn't enough, this is the service people turn to.
Want more intense service tips? Read our guide to serving your Mistress properly.
Why Do People Like Fisting?
Because it pushes limits — physically, mentally, emotionally. Because there’s something very thrilling about being opened like that… or doing the opening. Fisting isn’t just extreme penetration. It’s vulnerability. It’s control. It’s filthy, focused intimacy that can’t be faked.
Whether you’re the one taking it or the one sliding your hand in, fisting is about power and permission. You don’t get there by accident. Every inch is earned. It’s slow. Intentional. Exposed. That’s what makes it hot. It’s one of the few acts that can be humiliating, euphoric, painful, and holy — all at once.
Some subs crave the stretch because it makes them feel owned. Others want to give that stretch because they love watching someone surrender from the inside out. There’s no ego in it. Just sensation and service. That’s why people like fisting. That’s why they beg for it again.
“Fisting isn’t about violence — it’s about control. The slow stretch. The mental break. Watching someone beg to be opened. It’s one of the most obedient things a sub can offer me.” — Mistress Ava
Curious about the psychology behind submission? Read our blog on Dom/sub dynamics.
Is Fisting Safe?
Is fisting safe? Yes — when you respect the body and do it properly. But if you rush, ignore signs of pain, or treat it like porn? Then yes, fisting can be dangerous. Torn tissue, anal bleeding, vaginal trauma — these are real risks if you don’t warm up or listen. So don’t be a dick about it.
Fisting safety basics:
- Lube, lube, lube — and then more lube. For anal fisting, a thick silicone-based formula works best. For vaginal fisting, water-based is safer with gloves or toys.
- Gloves and clean hands — always wear nitrile or latex gloves. No jewellery. No dirty fingernails. Hygiene is non-negotiable, especially for anal.
- Trim and file your nails — even a small snag can cause cuts or bleeding.
- Start small — use fingers, toys, plugs. Don’t shove a fist into a body that hasn’t been stretched or isn’t aroused enough to take it.
- Communicate clearly — agree on a safeword, watch body language, and check in constantly. Moaning is fine. Tensing, freezing, or flinching? That’s a stop sign.
Is anal fisting safe? It can be — but it’s more advanced than vaginal fisting. The rectum is delicate, and if you go too fast, you risk tearing or perforation. You need more lube, more patience, and more warm-up. Always.
“Is fisting dangerous? Not when you’re trained and careful. I prep them properly. I read every twitch. I’ve fisted dozens of boys, and they all come back begging for more. Done right, it’s art.” — Mistress Lyra
New to BDSM? Read our guide to safe kink play to avoid rookie mistakes.
How to Prepare for Anal Fisting
If you’re asking how to prepare for anal fisting, you’re smart — because you can’t just skip foreplay and pray. Anal fisting needs real prep, both mentally and physically.
Start with:
- Relaxation: Breathe. Play. Don’t jump into it cold — warm up with fingers, plugs, and deep breathing.
- Hygiene: An enema or anal rinse an hour before can help you feel clean and confident. But don’t overdo it — too much can cause irritation.
- Lube: Repeat after us: there’s no such thing as too much. Use it before, during, and after.
- Set the mood: You need to feel safe. Candles, porn, music, Mistress’s voice — whatever gets you calm and submissive.
Still new to anal? Try our spanking guide to ease into power play.
Fisting Techniques (for Subs & Tops)
Ready to go in? Here's how to actually do it — or take it — without turning a filthy fantasy into a medical emergency.
For the Fister (Top):
- Start with fingers: Build from one to four slowly, scissoring gently and rotating to stretch the opening.
- Tuck your thumb in: Create a "duckbill" shape with your hand. Don’t punch in like you’re in a bar fight.
- Go slow: Listen to breath, tension, and words. Enter on an exhale. Pause often. Let their body adjust.
- Twist and tilt: Once inside, curl, rock, and explore. You’re not just in — you’re giving sensations they’ve never felt before.
For the Submissive (Bottom):
- Stay relaxed: Deep breathing and a calm mind help you open.
- Use toys for training: Gradual plug sizes or dildos can help you get used to the stretch over time.
- Give feedback: “Slower,” “Pause,” or “More” — your words shape the experience.
"Some boys try to take it all in one go. I make them work for it. Knuckle by knuckle. They beg for the last push… but I decide when they get it." — Mistress India
Does Fisting Hurt? What Does Fisting Feel Like?
Does fisting hurt? It can — but it shouldn’t feel like tearing or stabbing. More often, it feels like an intense stretch, followed by pressure, fullness, and eventually euphoria.
What does fisting feel like? Some describe it as ‘being filled to the soul.’ Others say it’s a floaty, out-of-body high. For givers, it can be intimate, primal, and deeply erotic to feel someone clench around your wrist.
The pain, when it exists, is usually brief and manageable. The intensity? That’s the point.
Aftercare for Fisting
Don’t skip this part. Fisting is intense. Whether you’re the one taking or giving, you need to ground yourself afterwards.
For the submissive: Cuddle, blanket, check-in. The body might feel shaky or drained. Water, sugar, and sweet words help.
For the dominant: Clean them up, praise them, reassure them. Fisting can leave a sub feeling vulnerable — or blissfully broken.
"I always cradle their head after. Stroke their hair. Whisper that they did well. It turns the intensity into something sacred. And that’s when they beg to do it again." — Mistress Ruth
Ready to Get Fisted?
If you’ve made it this far, you’re either twitching with curiosity or already lubing up. Either way — you’re ready.
At Bed Domination, our London fisting escorts are experienced, passionate, and sadistic in all the right ways. They know how to take their time. Or not.
To book your session, fill out our form or call 0780 913 8166. Let them test your limits… or stretch someone else’s.
Want more filthy service ideas? Read our blog on beginner-friendly domination services to inspire your next booking.
