20 June 2025

Guide to Rimming: How to Eat Ass Like a Good Boy

“Asses are made to bear, and so are you.”
— Shakespeare, probably not talking about rimming… but you get the gist...

So, you’ve been thinking about licking a Mistress’s ass. Or maybe you've already been told that you're going to — and you're smart enough to do your homework first. Good. That tongue of yours has potential… but it needs training.

Welcome to the world of rimming — a filthy, forbidden corner of BDSM where power meets tongue, and control gets tasted one slow lick at a time. Whether you’re new to anal worship or just want to make your Mistress moan (and not from boredom), this is the only guide you’ll ever need to learn how to lick that hole like a good little boy.

We’ll show you exactly how to eat a girl’s ass the way she deserves, with expert tips straight from our professional rimming escorts themselves.

Contents:

What Is Rimming?
Why Do Men Like to Eat Ass?
Is Rimming Safe?
How to Eat Ass Properly
Best Rimming Techniques
Best Positions for Rimming
How to Be a Better Ass Eater
Ready to Serve?

What Is Rimming?

Really? You’re asking what does rimming mean? You call yourself a sub and you’ve never even tasted a Domme’s ass? How tragic. But fine — we all start somewhere. And if you're lucky, you’ll get to make up for lost time.

Rimming — also known as eating ass, tossing salad, or anilingus — is the act of using your tongue and lips to stimulate the anus.

Rimming isn’t just about sticking your tongue where the sun don't shine. It’s about mindset. It’s about surrender. Your job is to forget your own pleasure entirely and focus on hers — to make her feel like a goddess while your face is buried where the sun doesn’t shine.

In domination, a rim job is an act of obedience, served wet and slow. Your Domme sets the pace. She decides when you lick, how long you stay down there, and whether you get to breathe. She might grab your hair. She might grind her weight onto your face. Or she might just sit back and let you work while she checks her phone. Either way, it’s not about you.

“I can always tell how submissive a man really is by the way he eats my ass. If he’s eager, focused, and doesn’t stop until I say so? Good boy. If he hesitates or gets sloppy, I shove his face in deeper. Either he learns to love it, or he doesn’t get invited back.” – Mistress Ruth

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Why Do Men Like to Eat Ass?

Let’s be honest — most men don’t start out begging to bury their face in someone’s arse. But once they’ve had a taste of it? Different story. So why do men like to eat ass once they get into it?

Because it’s filthy. Because it’s forbidden. Because it makes them feel something. Some men like the scent, the closeness. Others just get off on the humiliation. Either way, they’re obsessed — and suddenly nothing makes them feel more submissive than having their face between a Mistress’s cheeks, licking for approval.

And for a lot of subs, it’s not just about turning her on — it’s about knowing they’ve made themselves useful.

“I’ve had subs who’ve never rimmed before suddenly realise it’s all they want to do. Once I sit on their face and tell them not to stop, something switches. They start trying harder. They stop thinking about themselves. That’s when I know I’ve broken them in.” – Mistress Astrid

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Is Rimming Safe?

Is rimming safe? Yes — as long as you’re not a complete idiot about it. The anus is full of nerve endings… but it’s also close to, well, shit. So hygiene matters. A lot.

Soap and warm water will do the trick for most people. Some prefer a bidet, others go full prep and shower beforehand. If you’re with a Domme, assume she’s clean — but still ask before you dive in. A polite “Would you like me to freshen you up, Mistress?” will go a lot further than blind optimism.

If you’re nervous, or if she just likes the look, a dental dam or latex panties (like Lorals) can add a layer of safety without killing the mood. Add flavoured lube, take your time, and remember — you’re the one doing the licking. You’re not in charge of anything.

“I once had a boy freeze up because he was scared of what he might taste. I laughed, told him to grab the wipes, and made him clean me with his tongue. Now he asks for it. Every time. Lesson? Get over yourself. If you’re not ready to serve properly, you’re not ready for me.” – Mistress Betty

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How to Eat Ass Properly

Let’s get down to it. If you’re serious about learning how to eat ass — or more specifically, how to eat a girl’s ass without getting laughed out of the room — then forget everything you’ve seen in porn. This isn’t about smashing your face in and thrashing like a dog at dinner. It’s about control, technique, and reading her responses.

Start slow. Build it up. Make it feel like you’re desperate to earn the right to lick. That’s the difference between an average rim job and one that makes her sit back and groan. Here’s a basic structure:

Start with kisses: Soft lips around the thighs, the crack, maybe a few on the hole itself. It should feel intimate, not rushed.
Use your hands: Spread her cheeks gently and hold her open. If she wants control, let her sit on your face instead — no hands required.
Circle the hole: Don’t just jab at it. Tease the rim with the tip of your tongue, then flatten it to apply more pressure once she relaxes.
Breathe and moan: Controlled breathing through your nose helps you last longer. And low moans create vibrations she’ll definitely feel.
Be responsive: If she shifts her weight, pushes deeper, or tells you to stop — listen. If she says nothing, keep going. You haven’t earned words yet.

Bonus points if you explore the perineum, inner thighs, or lower back while you’re at it. Show her you’re not just licking a hole — you’re worshipping her body properly.

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Best Rimming Techniques

Alright, now for the good stuff. These are real rimming techniques used by pros. They’ve been mentioned by adult performers, sex educators, and Mistresses who know exactly what they want.

Here’s how to mix it up without losing your rhythm:

The Slurpee: Flatten your tongue and apply slow, wet suction across the whole rim. It should sound filthy. It should feel even filthier. Use this when she wants to hear just how desperate you are.
Circles & Flicks: Use your tongue tip to trace tight circles around the hole, then switch to fast flicks across the opening. This builds arousal without overwhelming her too soon. Stay light until she grinds down.
The Breath Tease: Before you make contact, hover and exhale softly over the hole. Do it after every deep lick. It keeps her guessing and heightens sensitivity. Especially good if she’s blindfolded or restrained.
The Nose Nudge: Use your nose or chin to keep contact when your tongue needs a break. Rest your face there. Let her feel you. You’re not going anywhere — that’s the message.
Rhythmic Worship: Once you find something she likes, stick with it. Don't change tempo every five seconds. Let her build toward climax or control how long you last down there.

“Some of them flick around like they’re licking out a Muller yogurt. No. I tell my boys to slow down, shut up, and match my breathing. Once they get in sync with me, they stop overthinking — and that’s when it actually starts to feel good.” – Mistress Clarice

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Best Positions for Rimming

How do you eat ass properly without ending up with a cramp or a sore neck? It’s all about position — and how much control your Domme wants. Here are a few real setups to try, whether you’re new to it or being used like the good boy you are:

Face-Sitting: She sits right on your face, knees straddling, ass planted. No hands, no escape. If she’s in full control, she might grind until you’re gasping — and then sit longer. Keep breathing through your nose. Stay still unless told otherwise.
Doggy Style: You kneel behind her, part her cheeks with care, and go to town. Good for long sessions where she wants to relax and let you do the work. Use your hands or tie them behind your back if she prefers.
Spread Eagle: She lies back with her legs overhead or wide apart. This gives full access for licking, sucking, and teasing — and she can keep eye contact the whole time if she wants to watch you squirm.
Rimming 69: You’re licking while she’s using your cock, mouth, or both. Dual service. Double pressure. Just don’t let your focus drop — her ass comes first.

Use cushions, kneeling pads, or a sturdy ottoman. If she’s taller or heavier, adjust your neck and arms to avoid fatigue. Because once she’s up there, you don’t stop until she says so.

“The face-sitting position is my favourite — not just because I can smother them, but because I get to test their limits. I tell my boys, if your tongue stops before I do, you’re not getting unlocked tonight.” – Mistress Ashley

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How to Be a Better Ass Eater

This part’s simple. Want to know how to be a better ass eater? Pay attention. Practice. And focus more on serving than performing. Good rimming is less about having a magic tongue, and more about being present, responsive, and obedient as hell.

Keep your tongue flat: It covers more area and feels softer. Switch to the tip only when you’re teasing the rim.
Match her rhythm: If she rocks or breathes deeper, follow her lead. Don’t get ahead of yourself.
Ask for feedback: Or better yet — earn moans. If she’s silent, you’re not doing enough.
Use sound: Moaning softly into her skin adds pressure and vibration. Just don’t overdo it like a porn audition.
Stay in position: Don’t fidget, don’t drift, and don’t touch what you weren’t told to touch. Stay locked in.

“I had a sub who’d try to improvise. His toungue would be in my ass, then on my clit, then licking my thigh (mental), then back to my ass — it was chaotic. Bold, but chaotic. I finally tied him up and made him rim me for 40 minutes straight with zero breaks. Guess who learned how to focus?” – Mistress Zara

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Ready to Serve?

If you’re already twitching at the thought of having your Mistress sit on your face and tell you to lick deeper — then yes, you’re ready. At Bed Domination, our London domination escorts are experienced in rimming, face-sitting, toilet training, and every filthy form of oral obedience you can imagine.

They don’t just let you serve — they make you earn it. And if you’re not licking right, they’ll happily sit longer… or sit harder.

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